Children Live What They Learn

Ada kata-kata bijak Dorothy Law Nolte tentang Anak. Orang jawa bilang Kacang Mongso Ninggal Lanjare atau Air Cucuran Jatuhnya ke Pelimbahannya Juga. Setali tiga uang dengan ungkapan barat Like Father Like Son. Coba renungkan kira-kira Anda hasil didikan yang mana?

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

Di Indonesia, hanya sebagian yang biasanya diterjemahkan. Misal,

Jika anak dibesarkan dengan celaan, ia belajar memaki.
JIka anak dibesarkan dengan permusuhan, ia belajar berkelahi.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan cemoohan, ia belajar rendah diri.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan penghinaan, ia belajar menyesali diri.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan toleransi, ia belajar menahan diri.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan dorongan, ia belajar percaya diri.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan pujian, ia belajar menghargai.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan sebaik-baiknya perlakuan, ia belajar keadilan.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan dukungan, ia belajar menyenangi dirinya.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan kasih sayang dan persahabatan, ia belajar menemukan cinta dalam kehidupan.

Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D. is a lifelong teacher and lecturer on family life education, and is the author of the poem "Children Learn What They Live," which has been translated into 20 languages and is used the world over by parents and educators. The mother of three, grandmother of three, and great grandmother of five, she lives and works in southern California.

Family life educator whose poem, entitled "Children Learn What They Live," became a child-rearing anthem that parents posted on refrigerators around the world. It has been reprinted in 30 languages. Nolte later wrote a book based on the poem and the book Teenagers Learn What They Live (2002). She died of cancer in Rancho Santa Margarita, California on November 6, 2005.

Books:
Teenagers Learn What They Live
Children Learn What They Live